Regular readers of this blog know that I compare employment to slavery. Think that’s too harsh?
Look at this dictionary definition for slavery “…the state of being under the control of another person.” Or look at these synonyms for slavery: drudgery, constraint and subjections, or these antonyms: emancipation, freedom and liberty. If the shoe fits…
I’m not writing this for the few of you who truly love your jobs. And, while I encourage your comments, I’m not writing this for my fellow coaches and bloggers who have already seized their freedom.
I’m writing this for those of you who have yet to make the leap.
What’s stops you from going for your work life freedom and fulfillment? Do you know?
What story do you tell yourself about this?
I’ve recently had the privilege of reading the responses of 110 work life freedom surveys.
One survey question asked this.
What is the number one thing stopping you from creating more freedom in your work life?
Here are the top five responses:
4). Lack of self-confidence
3). Not being clear on the livelihood I want
2). Fear of failure
The number one thing stopping these wonderful, sincere people from going for their work life freedom is a perceived lack of money or concern regarding obligations that require money.
I understand and I can feel your fear. Money is so highly valued in our society that the lack of it can lead to intense self-judgment. Yet I can’t let you continue to hide behind the excuse of not having enough money. We use the lack of money as a reason to keep us from doing and not doing all kinds of things. But that’s not it – and I can prove it to you. Quit reading now and get a piece of paper and a pencil.
In the next five minutes, as quickly as you can, write down all the things you can’t do because you can’t afford it. Just complete this sentence as fast as you can.
I can’t afford to….
(Don’t read on until you’ve taken at least 30 seconds to try this exercise.)
Okay, now go back over your list and read it out loud, but replace “I can’t afford to” with “I don’t want to.”
Can you now see how you have given so much power to money? That’s right, it’s not the money. What if you could accept this as the absolute truth for everything on your list? How would that change what you think you can and cannot do? When we examine how much we really want something, we invite all kinds of fresh insights. It truly does come down to the degree of our desire.
Perhaps you’ll find that you really don’t want your work life freedom that badly. Perhaps you want to continue being safely miserable in your job. If that’s the case, then at least come to acceptance with your choice. Truth be told, some would have to admit that they enjoy the twisted payoff that comes from being a complaining victim.
What about those of you who truly do want your work life freedom?
Are you willing to go deep within your self-exploration to do the work to find it? Are you willing to commit to the active pursuit of your work life freedom?
What remains when you remove money as the reason why you haven’t made the leap?
Is there really anything stopping you now? I’ve dedicated my life to this work. This is the coaching that I do. There is a way that works and I want to guide you there. How can I help you? What would you have me write about?
For my fellow bloggers, coaches and self-employed professionals, what can you share about that time just before you made the leap? How can you encourage these folks to go for it?