We must stand tall and speak up or our silence will make us poor. Money is attracted to confidence. Attractive confidence is the direct connection between authenticity and financial prosperity.
We naturally feel more confident when we are speaking our mind in full authentic expression. Every time we allow fear to silence our authentic expression, we poke little holes in our personal integrity and erode our confidence.
Often we are given opportunities to right a wrong, clear up a misunderstanding, enhance a relationship or express true feelings, but instead we take the easy way out, by putting up with what we could change.
I’m a big believer in accepting what is. But we can also be smart and remove ourselves from the presence of people and situations that are not good for us.
It’s essential to identify and eliminate situations that we needlessly tolerate.
Let’s define tolerations as things that bug us, sap our energy, and could be eliminated! There’s a small payoff to carrying tolerations – you get to feel kind of noble about your burdens and your forbearance. But, believe me, it’s a very expensive source of self-esteem.
Tolerations are holes in your personal success cup; they drain away your contentment and good fortune. They drain YOU. They make you feel less attractive to yourself.
Tolerations often represent compromises you’ve talked yourself into. Thomas Leonard
Leonard included physical clutter and all kinds of limbo projects in his master list of tolerations. Most of you have felt the tremendous resurgence of energy that comes simply from cleaning a closet or an office. My coaching clients and I have experienced even greater relief and enlivening from taking a stand and expressing it. It’s your turn.
What unresolved situations or unmade decisions have you avoided dealing with repeatedly?
Which of your relationships is more energy draining than inspiring?
Where are you withholding being totally forthright, because you fear the consequences, even though you know that you’re out of integrity by remaining silent?
Where do you resist telling the whole truth to yourself, about yourself?
Make your list, select one, face it and fix it permanently. Then cross it off and feel the rush of authentic expression.
For those in Pittsburgh this week, Tom is speaking on Thursday, 1-29, noon, at the Carnegie Business Library on Wood St. The topic is: Is Self-Employment Right for You?