Do you more often look for clarity or create it?
I’ve been pondering the creation of clarity. Most folks look for clarity like it’s something to be found. Discovering clarity happens but not as often as you’d think.
It’s far easier to decide to create clarity.
How do you come to your clarity? I find clarity is best approached with openness, calmness and a determination to create it.
A comprehensive process works best especially in matters of career change clarity. When there are many factors to consider that fog our clarity we must work a process that cuts through fog like a torch of sunshine.
Clarity is best created through a process of questioning, dialogue, decision and action. Every progressive step leans toward clarity and further away from confusion or complexity.
But there is one essential ingredient that must be put into the mix early and often.
Truth. If you really want clarity, you must decide to tell the whole truth to yourself about yourself. That’s the truth as you see it, without regard for the opinion of others.
To create clarity you must take a stand for your truth and your truth is likely to be unpopular. Its unpopularity is what makes it individual and thus valuable to you.
But without deep truth, as only you know it, you’re just spinning you wheels.
Here’s the secret. Be especially aware as a truth-teller, just before and during periods of important decision making.
Use this time to note your decision – to comprehend and appreciate the raw truth of it.
When we make a decision and then decide to make up some justification, explanation or fabrication after the fact, we don’t get the benefit of endorsing own authentic choices.
Singular and courageous endorsement of your own wisdom is what creates clarity and confidence.
Here’s a powerful opportunity to practice your truth telling. Decide to tell the truth when you decline every invitation, be it business or social.
Just saying no thank you can be enough. But just in case you’re asked, be ready and willing to share your whole unvarnished truth, even if you know that it will not be welcome.
It will be one of the cleanest and most liberating practices of your life.
What someone doesn’t want to hear, can be delivered respectfully and gracefully. But a sincere, blunt and clumsy truth is far better than any eloquently crafted lie.
Life is given, and not one other human being on the planet was given to live the life you’ve been given to live. The given self lets you quit trying to live another life, which is what the quest for the ideal life is, and lets you begin to live your own. Mari Perron
I’ve found that my given, most authentic self can’t get clear in the presence of white lies. I’ve found that in order for my given self to flourish in resolute clarity, I must first take a stand for what I want, even when it disappoints another.
True freedom is found in the loving acceptance of self and in the glory of expressing as no one else can.