Archives for February 2013

How to Live a Simpler Life without a Walking Dead Apocalypse

The Walking Dead - Season 2, Episode 1 - Photo Credit: Greg Nicotero/AMC - hills_amcWhen I watch the excellent Walking Dead series I’m drawn to living a simpler life.  The urgency of making your homestead zombie free is obviously simple.

I’m drawn to the simpler life of surviving and of finding shelter, food and safety in these stories.

Have you ever had this thought?  I think it would be easier for me to thrive in a post-apocalyptic setting then in today’s society.  Perhaps it’s the fresh start and the level playing field.

Could I actually be sick and tired of personal development and self-actualizing?  Or is the appeal really the opportunity for a complete life do-over?

Maybe it’s because I think as a coach I would be a very natural and valuable leader in such a post-apocalyptic scenario.  What about you? Ever find yourself longing for simpler living?

What do you find specifically appealing about making a fresh simpler start?  Is it, living a simpler life or the crystal clarity about what really matters?  Survival is clear and simple and it’s obviously practical.

How many aspects of your current life can you say really matters to you?

I don’t know about you but I’m not going to dropout completely and go raise chickens in isolation. I’m also not going to wait for the plague to wipe us out so I can fight zombies.

I think it’s more courageous to fight the zombie-like aspects of the lives we’re already living.  Really how much of your current life brings you vividly alive?

So what choices do you have if you crave the clarity and meaning of a simpler life?

You could start by asking the following questions and honoring your responses with action.

What could I drop or cut out of my life today that would make it much simpler right away?

What areas of my life are too unclear to even choose a new direction?

What choice might clear things up for me?

What doesn’t much matter at all that eats up my time and attention?

What really matters where I’m pretending that it doesn’t?

The truth is life is as simple or complicated as we have decided it needs to be.  You can decide to make a fresh start right now.  Answer those questions and take one small action towards simpler living.

If you really can’t wait and want some radically fearless help then go here and ask for it.  As your  life coach I’ll be your fearless partner in this life as well.

Break Comes Before Breakthrough

making a breakthroughSorry Dad.    You were right and I didn’t realize it until now.  I thought my Dad was just trying to cheer me up when he said.  “You just need to catch a break.” Finally I see the wisdom in those words.

Maybe we ought to listen more carefully every time someone who loves us tries to help us?

The thing is – breaks do need to be caught.  To be caught they need to be realized as the potential shift in consciousness that they are.

A break is at the same time a fracture and a gap. It’s a tearing apart and an opening.  Thus the wisdom in …. break comes before breakthrough.

In what specific life area do you need to catch a break?  Are you aware enough to catch it when one is being offered? Are you really committed to making that break?

The only way to have a life is to commit to it like crazy.  Angelina Jolie

The same area where you would love a break is the most challenging situation where you want to make a breakthrough.

In what specific life area do you need to catch a break because I’m offering you one right now?  But this isn’t merely a cognitive gift of wisdom.  I’m offering you a breakthrough experience.

We’ll meet this Thursday Feb. 7, 4:30 PM Eastren, on the phone.  To join us you only need to reply to this message answering two questions. Your responses will be kept confidential and only be used by me to prepare the experience.

In what specific area of my life would I most benefit from making a breakthrough?

What is the number one obstacle to me breaking through and shifting to a new way of being?

That’s all that’s required for you to participate in this breakthrough experience.  Or you can just go one saying that you never catch a break.

Tom Volkar

PS Remember that joke about the praying man who turned down three lifesaving rescue attempts and then asked God why he wasn’t saved?  Don’t let that be you. Respond now and answer the two questions above.