Can you allow your core magnificence?

What would it take for you to allow your natural magnificence?

What if the only thing stopping you from a glorious and joyful existence is your own self-judgment?

What do you think might remain if you could totally drop all judgment of you?

Does the eagle curse himself when he misses the rabbit or drops a fish?

Might you experience the truly magnificent being that you are in the absence of all self-judgment?

From where does all this judgment of you originate?

Do you really think you brought it with you into this world or do you think you picked it up from others?

What if everything you’ve ever imagined was wrong with you is really a magnificent aspect of you trying to shine through?

What might your life be like in the absence of all judgment?

Would you like to experience that?

Contact me and I’ll show you an easy and joyful way to become the magnificent being that you are.

Start a Business & Quit Your Job – Enough Talk

start a businessHaven’t you talked enough? Isn’t it time to quit your job and start a business?

I recently sent an inquiring email to a past coaching client and friend (we’ll call him Joe) asking for an update on a dream business he’s wanted to start. He’s been talking about getting this business started for 7 years. The thing is, I did this guy a disservice by the way I asked about his plans.

The subject line read: Ready to talk yet?

Body of message: Let’s get your plans off hold and get them moving. I’d love to hear an update. Regardless of where you are I’m sure there are effective actions you can do now to develop your business.

Joe’s response: Would love to talk to you Tom. Do you have some time to get together? Can you call me at your convenience?

Since Joe responded that he would love to talk and that’s where I realized my mistake. I was not helping him start a business by offering to do more of the same thing that has kept him in this waiting state.

If you’ve wanted to quit your job and start a business for a long time and haven’t perhaps you can relate.

Talk only gets you so far. You are more ready to act than you think you are and there is ALWAYS  an optimum next step for you to take.  (See strategy session offer at the end of this post if you want to know your optimum next step.)

Talking more about it is the last thing this guy needs. Yeah Joe’s a talker with a heart of gold and I’m sure that he’s talked to everyone he knows about how to start his business by now. He’s probably talked to most of us more than once.

But Joe doesn’t need to talk things over any longer. He needs to act without further delay.

My response: Of course we can talk and even meet for coffee if need be. But first I’d like you to get really clear on where you are, where you want to be and the obstacles that are in your way.

Why? Because I don’t think I’d be serving you by just talking. Haven’t you done enough “talking things over”? Isn’t it time to decide what you want and act?

So how about this? Please pause, take a deep breath and answer these questions.

1). What is the current state of your project?

2). If things went really well where would you like it to be in 90 days? Six months?

3). What are the top three obstacles stopping you?

With respect,

Tom

PS I know my email said ready to talk yet? It should have said – ready to do something strong and different? I’m rooting for you.

It’s my hope that Joe responds promptly with the answers to my questions. By doing so he will have earned the opportunity to get really clear with a thorough free strategy session. He’ll leave knowing exactly what he needs to do to take his dream and make it real.

How about you? Do you want to quit your job and start a business? Do you have a dream you want to make real? Have you taken the time to answer the three action questions above? I’d love to see your answers.

Schedule your own free Confidently Make Your Leap, strategy session. 

 

Five Essentials to Choosing the Right Business

"choosing the right business."How did you choose your business?  Did you choose it based on who you are or did you allow the circumstances and relationships in your life to choose it for you?

If you think you may have chosen incorrectly or if you haven’t even chosen yet – these five essentials will show you how to choose the right business.

I work with corporate employees who want to confidently quit their jobs and start a business.  Choosing a business that brings you alive is essential for your success but just doing what you love isn’t enough.

Just like the prospective entrepreneur who has yet to choose, existing business owners will benefit from knowing the five essentials for choosing the right business.

Existing business owners could be just one small adjustment away from success.  New business owners can start right the first time.

Money and clients are attracted to confident enthusiasm so both need a small business blueprint that inspires taking frequent action confidently and enthusiastically.

These five essential elements are not linear.  Instead imagine  a five sided pentagon of success.

  1. Sell the product or service that you are most eager to create. Eagerness leads to willingness which leads to action which leads to success. Eagerness is a natural response to authentic desire and only exists in the absence of fear.  Business can be a drag without natural eagerness.
  2. Work in your business on the activity that gives your deepest gladness. Deep gladness goes beyond love. Gladness is love with deep meaning.  What really matters to you matters because it is deeply aligned with your core makeup.  Isn’t it kind of stupid to start a business that doesn’t take into account the whims, talents and values of the founder?
  3. Start a business serving who and what you care about the most.  There is good reason for your experiences. Life is not a random event.  You’ve seen what you’ve seen and been though what you’ve experienced in order to give a damn about someone or something.  It’s time for you to take a stand and serve where you really care.
  4. Make a difference by giving customers the solutions that they most need.  In order for your business to thrive someone, somewhere has to really need what you’re selling.  There has to be some meat in your offer that someone is emotionally hungry for.  Quit talking about how you do what you do.  That’s too light of a meal.  Instead hit them hard with direct messages that speak to what they really need.
  5.  Finally offer your customers what they need in the way that they want it.  If you don’t meet them where they are they won’t recognize how much you can help.  Speak the language of those you are selling to.  Be strategic and smart by entering the conversation they are already having with themselves.  That’s how they want it.  They want it clear and understandable.

Eagerness, deep gladness and deep care enthusiastically served in a dish of what they need in the way they want it.  That’s the recipe for small business success.

So how many sides does your startup business pentagon have?  Without all five you aren’t really building a business that will last.  But you can change that.  You can choose to start a business that is right for you and for your clients.

Each month I offer five free strategy sessions to help prospective business owners get really clear on:

  • Understanding the person you need to be in order to make the leap.
  • Discovering the number one thing stopping you from starting
  • The right timing for you to make your move.
  • Identifying the next step that will give you the confidence to take the leap.
  • Exactly what you need to do next to make your move.

To claim your session send me an email  telling me why you want to be self-employed.

 

Starting Over With Honor

Starting over no matter how far you’ve fallen, is more surely accomplished with self-honor.

Self-honor begins with telling the truth to yourself about what’s really happening in your life.

Self-honor is making the decision you are most afraid to make.

Self-honor is asking for help when you know another perspective would illuminate possibilities.

Self-honor is taking the time to understand what you really, really want so you can declare that you want it.

Self-honor is understanding why you want something and having the courage to go for it.

Most of all self-honor is doing what you can do now to act on what you really want.

Without action you are just talk.  Action clarifies.  Without clarity of direction and path, it’s difficult to hold yourself in the high regard of self-honor.

You know where you have been running, hiding and avoiding your truth.  Honor your own truth today and watch your life transform.

What if they have it all wrong?

What if what the experts have been telling you about their success formula is something that mostly only works for them?

What if successful marketing and business success strategy was totally unique to the individual?

I am a big fan of uniqueness.  It is no accident that we are all so distinct from one another.

What if that uniqueness came into play not only with the gifts and talents we have to give but also in how we operated our own small business?

I’m coming to see that truth more and more clearly.

Vocation is where your deep gladness meets the world’s deep need.   Frederich Buechner

That’s my favorite career coaching quote yet I now believe that there are two additional roads intersecting at that essential crossroads.

I believe that your core business calling can be found only at the intersection of these four paths.

1). the product or service that you are most eager to create.

2). the work activity that gives your deepest gladness.

3). who and what you care about the most right now.

4). what value point others most need from you offered how they want it.

Let’s look at eagerness in this article.

Just like fear cannot exist in the presence of love, resistance cannot exist in the presence of inspiration.

You can’t run out of inspiration either. I’m talking about a special vein of inspiration that is tied to right action.

I’m talking about eagerness.  Right now think of something that you are eager to do.  Does any resistance come up at all?  I didn’t think so.  Here’s a powerful distinction for you.

The relief or avoidance of resistance is, running away from what you want.

The inspiration of eagerness is, running towards what you want.

Nike is wrong! Inspiration works better than discipline. Just doing it is the old way. 

When you find and engage your natural eagerness it’s easier to get what you want because a natural flow takes over.  Here are my principles of eagerness that will tie it all together for you.

Eagerness leads to willingness which leads to action which leads to success.

Eagerness is a natural response to authentic desire and only exists in the absence of fear.

The fierce and passionate qualities of the heart are more prevalent when we are actually doing something, so the more active the experience the more authentic the desire.

Two of our most basic desires are to create and to connect.  When we are creating or connecting we have already moved from eagerness, through willingness and into action.

Can you see why the most certain route to success begins within?

Would you like me to coach you in the discovery of your eagerness free of charge?

 In your comment please share which of your paths are the most underdeveloped?

 

Three Ways To Build Self-Confidence

We create unnecessary pressure in our pursuit of career or business success. Since both fulfillment and money are attracted to confidence, building your natural confidence is essential.

Here are the three most powerful ways to do so that I’ve learned in thirteen years of coaching.

1). Seek wisdom within, not without. Before you can start an authentic business you must believe in yourself enough to make the move. Beliefs determine possibility. Resolve and determination come from clearing limiting beliefs and accomplishing small wins.

Desire = Proof of Capacity. If you did not have what it takes to complete and idea – that idea would not have come to you. You are enough. In fact you are more than enough to complete the purpose you came here to complete. BUT you cannot keep searching for “the” secret to success on the outside. Your secret to success is only found within.

2). Make the decision you fear making the most. Decision-making is an active affair. Even if you’ve hit rock bottom and need to start completely over again you can do it by being more decisive. The best decisions are made and acted on. We are adaptable beings but if you remain a thinker and never a doer, you won’t get the opportunity to adapt. Without action your best possibilities remain hidden from your view.

Waiting serves no one. Any movement works. You must get in play and walk down the corridor to see what doors will open. You can’t see them without taking action. You’ll remain blind to your best opportunities unless you start now.

3). Understand and act on the basis that you are not your past. You only hesitate to do what you want to do because you believe more in your past than in your magnificent possibilities. Your past is primarily based on the erroneous assessments of others. Their opinions do not count when it comes to creating the life and business you want. You are far more than your past. Your past only exists to show you the wisdom of contrast. By seeing what you don’t want and filliping it – you’ll be able to see what you really want.

Your majorpoint of adjustment lies within none of these three.  Which is it for you?

It’s not too late; you can start completely over and make a fresh start.

You have what it takes to get what you want.

You can find your natural confidence.

You can see and make your special right path decision.

When you make that right path decision you will have the confidence to follow through and finish what you start.

If you’ve always wanted to make the leap to the freedom of self-employment but need more confidence then you can …

 Schedule a Confidently Make the Leap  – Free Strategy Session.

In this strategy session you will: 

  • Get really clear about the business you want to have.
  • Discover the number one thing stopping you from moving forward.
  • Plot out the right timing for you to make your move.
  • Identify the one thing that will give you the confidence to take the leap.
  • End the session inspired and knowing exactly what you need to do next to make your move.

Business, Money & Authentic Success

What’s the key to earning money authentically? Authentic Abundance for me is more of an inner game than and outer action based game.

Earning money authentically means that you seek to be paid well for expressing who you are. If you don’t care about fulfillment and contribution in your work then just making money could be more about hard work and taking action.

Authentic abundance brings your core individuality into aligment with how you make money. It means that you care about the service you offer and about the people you serve. It means that your work is aligned with who you are.

Making money in a way that makes your heart sing is authentic abundance.

Money is attracted to two things: joyful enthusiasm and confidence.

I keep hearing from clients that they never have enough time to do everything that they fear they must do in order to be successful.

Startling realization$$$$ – One only has to act and do things enough to maintain a high level of confidence and enthusiasm because that’s what attracts money. Good enough is often good enough if YOU feel good about your efforts.

Money doesn’t necessarily come as a result of any one method or action but as a result of how a variety of actions make you feel. That’s the point of massive inspired action.  Abundance comes alongside of your actions because of the vibes you feel and emit.

What work inspires you to be most enthusiastic and confident while doing it?

It’s only the engagement of the most aligned work that always brings forth both confidence and enthusiasm. When your work fits you are fired up for it.  Eagerness and willingness to follow-through is not so much in question when you are fired up.

Making money authentically comes more readily, by being real, while taking meaningful, sincere action.

These things have worked for me:

1). Use marketing and selling methods that you are personally eager to engage in.  Do it your way.  Lead with your unique and natural strengths and preferences.

I have a current coaching client who never enjoyed in-person networking. She would often schedule 3-4 opportunities weekly on her calendar and then beat herself up because she only attended one of them. We made an agreement that she quit scheduling and attending networking events all together.  Her time has increased and her income has remained the same.

Why? It’s because she now honors herself by only engaging marketing that she is eager to do.

2). Sell products/services that you feel proud to talk about and inspired to market because you deeply care.

Which formula works best for you?

Inspiration + Eagerness = Willingness
Discipline + Avoidance = Resistance

3). You must have conversations to sell things. How can you create more conversations? You really only have two choices.

a). You must contact prospective clients with a direct phone call … or
b). Put together a combination of traditional and unique methods that you are eager to do.

Authentic abundance will start flowing for you when bring your heart into your marketing. To do so be sure to continually ask these focusing questions:

1). Whom do I care about serving the most?
2). How can I most effectively serve them in a way that brings me alive?
3). How can I give them what they need, to feel better about what they are doing or where they are going?
4). How can I give it to them in a way that they can recognize as something that they want?

I’d be honored to guide you to your authentic money-making success.  Delay no more.  Your heart wants you to come alive.

Top Seven Benefits of Knowing Who You Are

Woman in FieldKnowing who you are is the best way to discover your true core calling. It’s also essential to choosing your ideal business. 

So many folks are living in paralyzing fear because they are trying to live a life created by others. Hiding behind the mask of appropriateness deadens your soul and changes your identity to something less than you could have been.

Instead be all of who you are by knowing who you are and you’ll never go back to mimicking others. Get inspired by these powerful benefits to being the individual you were always meant to be.

1). The honor of giving space to who you are gives you access to so far hidden wisdom. Gain access through asking your most challenging discovery questions. Residing within this wisdom are jewels in the form of thought connections, fresh insights and rich realizations.

2). Decision-making is easier and more spot on. You only struggle with big decisions because you are choosing from culturally created options that are not a fit for you. Be who you are and you’ll more readily see the wisdom of hindsight in foresight.

3). It allows you to see opportunities you were once blind to. It’s impossible to see the right opportunities when you are looking through false lenses. But once you know who you are, then you can see more of the opportunities that fit you.

4). You’ll be more productive with less effort. Authenticity allows you to tap your purest vein of inspiration so you don’t have to use will power, discipline and self-control to get things done. Inspiration is the only effective antidote to resistance.

5). True north self-identity allows you to see options that are more supportive of your true desires. But when you are living a false life, one that was created by someone else, the choices you see only perpetuate that fallacy. Living from true north gives you greater access to the actions you can take to get what you want.

6). You can only truly see what you want (your heart’s desires) from the vantage point of who you are. These desires of your heart of hearts feed you at a soul level. They are your Divine gifts that have been sent from God’s heart to yours. Until you honor who you are these gifts stall in limbo waiting for your recognition of them.

7). Once you know who you are you can choose or create work that is aligned with you. This work is your natural edge in the marketplace. It is your calling which is the work that will give you both the greatest fulfillment and the most prosperous rewards.

Which of these benefits inspires you the most to be who you are?

Are you inspired to get started being who you are now?  Then go here to schedule your Confidently Make the Leap free strategy session.  Isn’t it time for you to cash in on your uniqueness?

Yes Be Yourself But Not By Yourself

You are not alone. You are connected but you often don’t act like it.

You are not supposed to face challenges by yourself.

Going it alone creates separation and discord. Following the myth of the rugged individual entrepreneur is not the surest path to success.

Going it alone causes you to judge yourself and exclude others. More fear is conjured out of thin air when you try to handle it all by yourself. Fear breeds more fear. Connection breeds strength.

Going it alone creates doubt and delay. Connection is a much better way.

What if the surest way to success and fulfillment was connection and you aren’t really connected?

What if your higher self cannot fully reveal your calling while going it alone?

What if true service can only be realized in deep connection with others?

What if life really happens for you, not to you but in order to get that you can’t go it alone?

It’s only through connection that all good things are allowed and received. Business is no exception. Value is exchanged because of the trust in connection.

I believe that connection is the missing link between authenticity and prosperity. Don’t you find it more rewarding to truly express who you are when others encourage you to do so?

Authentic abundance is the natural state of affairs in the Universe but we can’t see it while working alone. The fear of being alone, blocks out the warmth of serving others.

Money is attracted to confidence. I think confidence increases to the degree that we hang with others who are eager to unconditionally support us. Confidence builds as others voice appreciation and recognition for our creations.

One of the biggest blocks to creating original value occurs when solo business owners feel judged and not supported by others. When entrepreneurs feel the sincere well wishes of positive intention they care less about what others think because they can feel the sincere connection.

Even if you’re self-employed, how could you increase your connection to like-minded others in the same boat?

What concerns come up for you when you consider being more vulnerable in connection with other small business owners?

Do you think the quantum physicists are correct when they say that everything is energy so we already are connected to everything and everyone?

If you knew that to be true without doubt, how might you conduct business differently?

How To Make Your Idea A Real Business

I define a real business with two main qualifiers. One it’s authentic to you and two it pays you. Authentic business building is all about receiving money for providing value that fulfills you. That’s it.

As Steven Covey in his excellent book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People shared – Begin with the end in mind and put first things first.

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Synopsis: Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3: Put First Things First
Planning, prioritizing, and executing your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluating if your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you towards goals, and enrich the roles and relationships elaborated in Habit 2.

This may surprise you but the first thing in turning your idea into a business is not incorporating or figuring out how to file your taxes. It’s not ordering business cards or putting up a website.

These things are all necessary but distracting steps, that can dilute your energy and cause you to avoid taking action.

No one has ever been paid for getting ready to be in business.

You aren’t really in business until you have a customer.

Are there preliminary steps that you must take to develop your idea into a business? Yes there are but they do not have to take you months to accomplish and you don’t have to write a traditional business plan.

Getting started in real business building activity is more important than writing a plan you may or may not ever follow.

Yet a written summary of the business is an essential focusing tool. Just write out what your business idea is, explain the product or service, define who you will be selling to and what aspect of your product, service, delivery or business model gives you a unique edge in the marketplace.

After you do that – then get busy building your business. A good place to start is by asking, answering and acting on these five questions.

1). What can I do now to move this idea forward into a business.

2). What are the next 90, 60 and 30 day milestones to set and hit to prove that I am doing so?

3). What are the three toughest questions I could get from someone who is testing my commitment and the idea’s validity?

4). What are my most enthusiastic and confident responses to each question?

5). How can I put myself in front of potential clients or customers now so I’m having real conversations about my real business?

Do these things first and you will create clarity and progress.

Go direct to what you want. Take action to get it and before you know it – you’ll have a real business.