I want to inspire you to do something today from the raw, unblemished core of who you are. I want to encourage you to act for today or even for one hour, as if there were nothing wrong with you. I want you to boldly go where no man or woman has gone because only you can walk your path.
I’m asking you to do that because you can.
Abundance is doing what you can do right now. Kim George
What stops you from living fearlessly?
What stops you from doing what you say you want to do?
My thoughts stop me.
What if everything brave and beautiful that you’ve ever wanted to create was stopped by a fearful thought?
We have become masters of fearful thinking. We’re experts at labeling our maladies.
We call them procrastination, perfectionism, attention deficit disorder, overwhelm.
By labeling them we invite their existence, and by doing so we sentence ourselves to an unnecessary, more permanent experience of them.
I like this about my upbringing. We didn’t have a lot of money so we couldn’t afford to label our maladies. We sneezed, but we didn’t know about allergies. As a result, we grew up allergy free.
At six years old, I slid down a muddy hillside and gashed a long, deep wound in my thigh. Spending money for a doctor just wasn’t an option. My parents cleaned it, disinfected it and wrapped it. I felt taken care of and my leg healed, without a stitch.
We tell these stories now and laugh. Home healing gets passed on. Also at six years, my daughter Leslie, (that’s her in the air) ran and slid up on an old picnic bench. A finger length sliver of wood splintered off in her rump. I gave her the choice of a doctor visit or a Barbie Doll, if I pulled it out. She chose the doll.
Reflecting now, I see that our greater gift was not the medical savings but the gift of acting swiftly without needing to slow down and label experiences as something bad.
I made a wonderful discovery when my kids were toddlers. They’d fall down and smack their heads. But in that instant of surprise, they’d look to us before reacting. If we laughed they were infected by our laughter. But if we showed concern, they cried. As a result, they learned that pain wasn’t always bad. Often pain is only surprising, until we label it as something else, by attaching a fearful thought to it.
Like many of you, I’ve worked through the emotional wounds of a less than nurturing upbringing. But I think we are too quick to label our conditioning as limiting. When we look for the good, we can see it. I now see that my upbringing also spawned my natural optimism.
I’ve often been called unrealistic. Harsher critics have said I’m avoiding, or in denial. They’re right. I’m denying the need to explore what’s wrong with me.
I think it’s a waste of time. I know it’s a waste of life.
We’ve made our temporary disorders more permanent by accepting them as our fate. We say, “I have” a cold, like we own it. We describe colds as though they have taken up permanent residence in our bodies. Wouldn’t it be better to tell the truth? Wouldn’t we be better off saying? “The experience of a cold is now leaving my body.”
We declare, “I’m overwhelmed.” “I’m a procrastinator.” We describe ourselves as if our core identity is flawed. These fearful labels are not who we are, but they have become misdiagnoses because we have thought them into being.
They become excuses and even bigger personal puzzles that we think we have to solve in order to be get what we want.
But really, haven’t we made all of this up? Yes, thoughts are creative and most of us have advanced degrees in negative thinking. But positive thinking isn’t the best answer either.
How about simply more acting and less thinking?
When we are living, we are creating. We aren’t thinking but doing.
We fear the idea of something more than the thing itself. Steve Chandler
Our minds are tricky and powerful. We can believe that we “have” anything. We can believe that we can think our way out of any problem. But while thinking so much, are we really living?
What might you create if you didn’t “have” anything? No malady, disorder or disease, and not a single impediment, block or fearful thought?
Act. Do. Create. Walk your bold path today.
Steve Chandler his book, Fearless, Creating the Courage to Change the Things You Can, inspired this post. I’ve joined his Club Fearless and you can get his book free by joining. This isn’t an affiliate program; this recommendation is my thanks to Steve for the inspiration to live fearlessly.
Marelisa Fábrega for her relentless dedication to creativity.