Top 10 Ways to Realize What You Were Meant to Do

start now to find what you were meant to do You were created uniquely so that you could joyfully pursue what you were meant to do. All other pursuits, of livelihood are too small for you. If you really want more joy, ease and glory in your work – then follow these 10 ways to freedom and fulfillment.

1. Know that self-employment or business ownership allows the freedom and flexibility to be the totality of you. You have a much higher probability of successfully developing a business that is aligned with who you are, then by working a job created by another.

2. Increase your presence within supportive and encouraging environments where the prevailing cultural memes inspire and boost individuality.

3. Seek guidance deep within the core wisdom of your own being. No one knows better than you what’s best for you.

4. Make decisions primarily not based right or wrong as deemed by others but on what works well for you.

5. Check in with your own energy and only take actions that feel expansive and uplifting.

6. Vulnerably open your heart and connect with fellow journeyers who are also looking to realize the work that lights them up.

7. Inquire into possibilities beyond what you can now see so you are not creating your future based on your past.

8. Recognize and act on the basis that what you think is in your way is only an illusion you created from judgment.

9. Let go of unnatural restraints of comparison, conformity, justifications, avoidance, self-doubt and judgment; they are limiting you to what they define.

10. Identify your natural points of eagerness. Eagerness leads to willingness which is essential to follow-through and completion.

Get started today a with a complimentary Confidently Make the Leap strategy session.

I’m Betting On Your Authentic Good Sense

Have you ever been left with a feeling of frustration and empty promises after watching a video from a big name guru? Here’s the tipoff. If they say it will be packed with lots of content – it usually isn’t.

I wasted about 12 minutes watching one recently because the link came from someone who I used to trust.

But I smelled the stink early and checked the comments and that made me feel good. Sure 90% of the comments were of the brown nosing variety but it was the 10% that spoke the truth.

Some of these guys are so good at repeating the “what” 20 different ways that they confuse you into thinking you missed the meat. You didn’t miss it. Real meat wasn’t served, only the come on.

Then I realized. I already know more about how to treat a seeker than this guy does.

I already care more, share more and know more, than this seemingly well-respected guru was willing to share in his entire 90-minute webinar.

I bet you’re just like me. I bet you’ve read enough and experienced enough to be of great value to many.

I bet you know what’s authentic and what’s bull.

I bet you’re more ready, than you think you are, for whatever big change you want to make.

Readiness is a choice not a state of being.

Who are you when you dream big? Be that person.

I’m betting that you’re ready to make your move, right now. You are the source of your best career change advice.

Sometimes we simply need to quit seeking. Sometimes we need to quit following the guru and become the guru.

How about you? Are you ready to put your authentic good sense on the line? I’m betting you are.

How To Extract Your Best Business Idea

You have powerful points of wisdom within that when expressed could be your authentic edge in the marketplace.  That wisdom represents better business ideas than anything your conscious mind realizes.

We talk a lot about authentic expression in terms of standing up for what’s important and in terms of life purpose but I don’t think we talk enough about our inner wisdom and how to extract it.

When you decide to express your well-earned inner wisdom you set yourself apart in remarkable ways.  It’s your wisdom and no one else can express and exploit it like you can.

Your best idea is waiting just below the surface, buried under your lack of willingness to dig and your fears.

How about instead of waiting for true calling epiphanies you take a look at how to dig deep and extract your own inner wisdom?

 

 

Major Wisdom Extraction Realizations

1). Forced Urgency is like a shortcut because it goes directly to the engagement of wisdom extraction.
2). With Increased Decisiveness you can discover, decide on and develop wisdom much more quickly than imaginable.

Forced Urgency

One of the most practical therapists I’ve ever read is Nathaniel Branden. He’s written classics such as The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem and Taking Responsibility.  One technique that Branden uses to extract wisdom is the technique of Sentence Stem Completion.

When we intensify awareness, we tend to generate a need for action that expresses our changed psychological state.  Nathaniel Branden

By swiftly answering strategically chosen sentence stems, six days in a row, with at least six complete sentence endings, we access resources that normally remain hidden from our consciousness.

Without the exercise this wisdom does not normally show up in our behavior. This powerful technique doesn’t give enough time for self-doubt and questioning so resistance doesn’t rear its ugly head.

If you’d like me to email you complete instructions on this technique ask for them here.

Increased Decisiveness

Resistance adores delay. It will seize any excuse to delay you just long enough so that your original inspiration fades.  Resistance knows that when left to discipline alone you are more likely to give up.

Self-control is exhaustible.  Chip & Dan Heath from their book, Switch: How To Change When Change Is Hard

So if self control (willpower, discipline) is an exhaustible resource, it’s only a matter of time when burning adrenaline alone, you run out of fuel.

What’s the answer?  Increase your speed to action by making decisions much quicker and engaging them much sooner.  In a word, decisiveness.

Surprisingly speed inspires sounder decision-making than careful analysis. When you’re quick about it, the best ideas surface and it’s easier to pick out the viable ideas from among the junk.

We have assumed that taking longer and being more thorough is good for us.  But getting lost in the delay of over-analysis is always more costly than acting decisively and making lots of mistakes.

What’s your experience using forced urgency and greater decisiveness?

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I think it has a lot to do with these three factors.
1). They didn’t go deep and extract their waiting wisdom so the idea was not authentically aligned.
2). They never followed a firm, creation/completion process with supportive structure and environment.
3). They were not able to use discipline and willpower to follow-through.

 

Your True Calling Inspired Business Startup

The old saying goes, he who hesitates is lost.  That’s true but the hesitator is more than lost – he’s lying to himself.

If you’ve wanted to identify and start a true calling inspired business and haven’t by now. What’s your excuse?

Really what are you waiting for?  I hope it’s not a small business idea that’s so brilliant that it arrives bathed in golden light on the wings of angels.  That’s a myth.  More good ideas come from observing mistakes than from epiphanies.

But to observe a mistake and extract the wisdom from it you’ve got to be willing to try lots of stuff so you make really good mistakes in the first place.

This post came from a mistake.  Yesterday I started a teleclass with 8 folks on the line.  It was called, Finding the Clarity and Confidence to Begin Your True Calling Inspired Business.

Halfway through the call all the participants got bumped off and I was talking to myself.   I thought that a couple may have dropped off and the remaining folks were just shy about participating.  I figured even if I were alone the recording would still take and I could send it out to folks.  Nope. Later I found out that I had no audience and no recording.

So I re-recorded the call and simplified it down to the three necessary ingredients for a true calling inspired business startup and five ways you can start up your business today.

You might think you need a perfect startup business plan or at least a completed idea of what your business will look like but that’s not true.  Believe that and you’ll never get started.

What you need for a successful business startup is to feel really good about it.  That good feeling comes from the clarity and confidence to begin.  If you’re through whining about risks and security and are ready to do something, listen to this recording and tell me what you think. Better yet – get started; humanity needs your expressed uniqueness.

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You’re Brilliant!

You really are brilliant, you know.  Out of 6 billion of us on the planet there is no one like you.

That’s not some cruel joke.  There is meaning to your being.  But that meaning is wasted when you don’t do what you love for a living.

Your uniqueness is your greatest blessing.

Are you leveraging your uniqueness?

Are you expressing your authentic individuality by doing what you love?

If not what do you fear?

I know you’ve experienced flashes of your own brilliance.

I know you’ve felt authentic aliveness with the arrival of a bold new idea.

How many of those ideas have you had without even taking the next small step to acting on them?

How often do you set one half-completed project aside and jump to the momentary madness of yet another fresh idea that you’ll likely not complete?

What causes you to fear and not act?

What is it about the delicious inspiration in a brand new idea that causes you to momentarily lose your senses?

Is it because it carries with it an unconditioned and unspoiled promise?

Is it because you haven’t yet dishonored it by not acting?

Is it because it offers further relief from the discomfort of completing last week’s fresh idea?

I used to be affected by this kind of unproductive, uninspired behavior but since I have begun noticing how the energy of inspiration, I’ve been experiencing creation differently.

So I’m curious, what do you think is missing from your creative productivity process?

There’s really nothing wrong with your brilliant bad ass self.  You can do something brilliantly that is far more valuable than you ever contribute by copying the inspiration of another.

But if you can identify what’s missing – you can add it.

There’s a lot to be said for work habits and or inspiration that increase your speed to taking the first step.  Urgency bypasses the fear of our cognitive minds.  You can try this do what you love exercise and prove it to yourself.

What was missing for me was a real feeling of connection that inspires authentic aliveness.  I’m almost embarrassed to admit it but I think I’m one of those people who need to feel good about doing what I’m doing.

Some self-employed business owners develop the discipline to be productive regardless of their feelings.  But does creativity have to be a fight or can it be more of a flow?  It makes me wonder.

I wonder if for me and maybe others, a more effective approach is to generate good feelings about our ideas and projects so we are more authentically inspired to complete them.

Now generating good feelings of authentic aliveness is something that I know how to do.

It’s working so far.  Stay tuned for further developments.

In the meantime, lighten up and imagine how effective you might be if you regularly got unconditional supportive praise like the dude in my favorite commercial.

When you are ready to get really clear on what you want seize this opportunity.

Awakening To Your True Calling

Beams of light pour through the treesWhat if the great depression had never happened?   What if industrial engineering and the dehumanization of workers had never occurred?  Imagine instead the influence of a great awakening to true calling that immersed all in expressed authenticity rather than fear.

How might your life have been different if your parents were raised during a great spiritual awakening? What if they were celebrated and encouraged to find their own authentic sweet spot in service to the world?

What if this great awakening had championed uniqueness and abundance in service to others? What if this great collective awakening honored authenticity, fulfillment and money?

How might your life have turned out differently were you raised in that sort of environment?  Would you have answered your true calling?

Well, it’s not too late.  It’s my desire to serve you as you reconnect your own link between your truest of callings, deep fulfillment and abundantly flowing streams of cash.

Cautious parents who hoarded out of fear and scarcity raised many of us.  But we are more in control of our destinies now than we ever have been. Together we can create a world where our uniqueness is championed.

Imagine the possibilities.  I’ve discovered a way to make this happen sooner.  The missing link is found within the power of connected intention.  We must connect through our callings while demolishing our me-centered, fearful walls.

The answer is to immerse your intentional being in an environment conducive to the discovery, validation and or evolvement of your true calling.   Right now I’m designing adventurous experiences of environmental support.   Soon these one-of-a-kind adventures will be available to you.

For a large part we are products of our environments that’s why we need to theme them authentically rather than fearfully.   Authenticity has something going for it that fear does not.

Authenticity empowers and emboldens.  Authentic callings carry the energy of right momentum.  Work in service to your calling and your environment carries you along with it.

Enroll here for announcements of true calling awakening events.

Please pause and imagine being awakened greatly.  Share where you are on discovering a or validating your truest of callings.

Ring The Authentic Bell And Win The Big Prize

iStock_000008180567XSmallConnecting the big link between authenticity and prosperity is a process of coming back to oneself.  My intention is to create environments where your reconnection to original magnificence will thrive.  I want to show you your way to ring your authentic bell so that you continue to hear its strong, clear call.

If you too want abundant fulfillment and financial prosperity from putting your purest self out there – I invite you to join me in the process.  These are the connection points that I’ve recently worked.  They cannot be skipped.  All transformation begins within.

Declaration

No more hiding. No more holding back. No more playing smaller than I could play.  No more going for second place dreams.  No more listening to my fears. I accept full authenticity and abundance regardless of form, expression or manifestation.  I declare myself to be an instrument in service to my original uniqueness.

Confession

The last time that I followed through all the way to completion, on a first place dream, was in 1992.  That dream ended in 1997 with a loss of worldly possessions and much of my self-regard.  I’d boldly chosen, come close but no cigar.

I missed the mark and lost a home, a marriage, all my money and temporarily, my peace of mind.  I’m now grateful for letting it all go.  I’m grateful for all of my wounds.  Now is the time to come boldly forth again.

My confession is that even though I’ve coached many to go for their gold, I’ve been playing it safe and just nipping around the edges of my next big thing.  I’ve been shying away from the hot stove of flat out, passionate desire because of that old burn.  No more.

Forgiveness

Entrepreneurship is a sacred exploration of trust.  Recently I asked for help from a dear, trusted friend and she wisely asked me to commit to a spiritual practice of forgiveness for a few days.

Perhaps you too need to forgive yourself for your many misses.  Perhaps you too need to clear out all the mental waste that is weighing you down before embarking on a new journey or special project.

I wasn’t fully hearted in some past limited attempts but I can see more clearly now.  I see now how I have previously misfired on many projects because I kept planting new seeds over old ground that wasn’t properly prepared for a new crop.  Those messy misses were a necessary part of my evolution.  Now I am doing the work of my bravest heart.

All authentic pursuits are good for us.  I want you to forgive yourself, if like me; you’ve taken some shots and fallen short.  All authentic pursuits (whether birthed to die within a day or even after a few hours in our minds) create a cumulative good that has strengthened your brave heart.  This is a key component of Divine Coalescence.

I fully forgive myself for all false starts, incompletion, errors in judgment, small thinking, inauthentic pursuits, embraced distractions, under-earning, excuse-making, self-created limitations and fearful behaviors.  By deep feeling absolution I’m now digging up and tossing aside all rocks and roots that have previously stunted my authentic growth.

Evolution is a gnarly, messy exploration into higher states of consciousness and then outward to increasingly bolder authentic expression.  But the journey begins within because that’s where your untarnished, purest vein of authentic desire and capacity resides.

Ring The Bell

I’m a big strong guy and I’ve always been able to swing the sledge and ring the carnival bell.  But sometimes it takes a more solid hit. Sometimes, at first, we fall short before striking gold.  Perhaps our strike wasn’t squarely on the mark or perhaps we just hadn’t focused enough weight and energy into our swing.

I like the carnival atmosphere and the playful kidding and laughter from onlookers when one comes very close but no cigar.  There’s something cathartic and primal about watching the striker rise, come close and slowly fall all the way back down to ground zero.  After near misses one must find the determination to re-gather energy, refocus aim, and re-adjust swing for the right amount of committed determination before taking another swing.

That’s where I now find myself.  I’m preparing solid ground for another swing to ring the big bell of authenticity.

Win The Big Prize

The big prize is total fulfillment, unlimited freedom, unbridled joy and lavish abundance, simply for fully expressing your authentic self.

Don’t you too want all that just for being who you are?  Deep in my bones, I know that’s our true original blessing.

That’s what I’d like to encourage for all of you who want to connect your authenticity with your prosperity.  I see too much struggle from folks who simply want to be real and be rich.  I see too much hesitation from folks who are still hiding their wildest, most beautiful essence.   I’ve encouraged you to come out and play before.

But now I’m determined to do something about it.  It’s my intention to connect this big and beautiful link.  I really have no choice, for this is my soul’s mission.  I can now feel the authentic lift and I’m riding it all the way, wherever it goes.

Stay tuned.  If you are so moved join me with a declaration of your own below.  I’m inviting you to reconnect your own link by working this sacred process.

What’s Next?

Only Future Tom knows that, but first he wants me to let go, clear fear and fully forgive myself before further details are revealed.  I’ve decided to be completely transparent as I call forth this rally of grand reconnection.

My pledge to you is that I will play no games.   I’d rather give it to you raw and unpolished then waste time on strategizing the perfect launch.  That’s not my style.   Can you handle my wildness?   Can you follow a leader who is only a half step ahead in his own pursuit?  I prefer to believe that if you want more money to come your way as a result of your most authentic expression then, you’ll join me if you feel it in your heart.

Although it helps, everything doesn’t have to be expertly marketed.  I’d rather err on the side of authentic full disclosure and trust that you are wise enough to know the real deal when you feel it.

I promise you this.  The connection experiences I deliver will always be one-of-a-kind originals.   Together we’ll go deep, connect and bring forth your sweetest, purest self.  We’ll ride the camaraderie of unconditional support and authentic validation all the way to the bank!

Since we are all connected, I trust that you’ll recognize the wisdom in offering a hand up to your fellows who also may have struggled in this pursuit.  I trust that you’ll look in your heart and email this post to whoever comes into your mind.

I know this for sure.  You can reconnect your big link and by working together we can all get their sooner.  Open your heart my friend.  Feel your warrior within standing tall and strong as you consider this sacred pursuit.

It will be a blast to watch something this big evolve.  But I want more for you than a ringside seat.  I want you to reconnect your own link between authenticity and abundance and become a player in life’s greatest game.

Get ready to ring your own bell by making a declaration, a confession and forgiving yourself.  It’s beautifully cleansing work.  Fear not, you’ll come out the other side stronger and more determined to be rich, fulfilled and wildly entertained, just by being you.

Ready to begin this clearing work now?   Then call me 724-823-0317 or contact me here. 

Ripening Bliss

This is a pretty much off-the-cuff report on what’s been going on with me in the last week.   I’ve identified a very big objective and I’m working through a gestation period to allow my ideas to fully form.  Realizations are coming rapid fire and my certainty and confidence are growing daily.  tomshawiianphoto

Perhaps you’ve tried to do what you love to do but not enough money has followed.  Or you make lots of money but starve your soul.  Or you might know your big dream but you’re afraid to make the leap.  Or you want to be independent, fulfilled and prosperous but have yet to discover what to go for or how to bring it about. If any of that applies to you read on.

I was talking to colleague and regular reader Keena recently and she remarked how my posts have had a kind of ramping up momentum to them lately.  Keena is right on (a very good trait to have in her business).

So what have I been ramping up for?  In this post,  Make Your Life Count, I hinted about my new big thing.   Funny how it’s become bigger than I ever imagined it would be.

I’ve fully identified the what.   Now I only have to develop the more involved but easier work of the how to.

In this post, I said I was dedicating this year to reconnecting the link between authenticity and prosperity.

I’ve decided that reconnecting that link has become my life’s work and the mission of my soul here on earth.

Funny, I’ve always resisted using the life’s purpose term; probably because as a dedicated Scanner I didn’t like the permanence it implied.

But Holy Shit this is a whole different thing.  This is the real deal and the big banana all rolled into one.  So I’ve set the clock for 60 minutes and I want to share some raw realizations that may be helpful for those of you who are also on a path to discover your souls’ mission.

Yes you’ve read it right.  I’m making it my life’s work to reconnect the link between your original authenticity and your abundance.  For all who want to play along it’s time to put an end to this growing lack of vocational fulfillment.  I’ve got no choice.  I’ve been called in grand fashion and I’m up for it.

My Coaching

My main coaching gig has been coaching the leap to self-employment freedom.  Until my abundance fully manifests I’ll continue to serve one-on-one clients with this aim.  In fact I’m putting it out there – if you are scared shitless because you want to make a very big thing happen now, it will be very advantageous for you to work with me while I’m doing the same thing for myself.

Use Divine Coalescence

Call on Spirit to coalesce and assemble all the discordant facts, learning and realizations you’ve had in your conscious lifetime.  The good news is, even if you’re vocationally lost there is an Authentic Accumulation going on.  This aggrandizement has been amassing and gathering all the forces both seen and unseen in service of your good.  I’ll explain more on how to do this later.   But for now if you’re tuned in – ask for the coalescence to begin.

Hints Of Things To Come

Writing is not my best medium for delivering inspirational transformation.  Phone is good.  Groups on the phone are better.  In person is best.  You may want to pack your bags for an upcoming visit to Pittsburgh because the experiences I’m planning will more than knock your socks off.

I’m not sure how many more posts I’ll be publishing here at Delightful Work. Obviously the Reconnection requires it’s own home.  I’ll send you there once I’ve moved.  If you want to be sure not to miss major announcements and alliance opportunities subscribe to this email list, which is only for inspiring this big link.

Invite Mutation & Evolutionary Flux

Words can’t describe the raw energy that comes rushing in once you hit the mark on your calling!  Callings get heard from a strong declaration of “Bring it on Soul, I’m open and listening and ready to go wherever the journey calls.”  Know this – acceleration happens once you truly let go of dictating terms and throw yourself wide open to guidance.

Rapid Realization

I’ve surrendered.  Now I know what the artist who can’t quit painting feels like.  I must allow the Universe to work out the most important intentions so I’m turning a lot over to higher good.  I’ve been compelled to get my exercise outdoors in more natural settings lately because the ideas flow gloriously in nature.

Right Business Model

The right dream with the wrong business model slows development unnecessarily.  That delay could kill your dream if you don’t have the determination to hang in there no matter what.  And you’re not going to hang in there if you are working on a third place dream.  This has been my most valuable realization.

I know that there are those of you out there who have been trying to hit your sweet spot for some time without success.   I suspect that you also could have fallen prey to your caution.

Consider this.  When you do the business stuff wrong or make the wrong choices is it really because you don’t know how to do the business stuff right? Or is it because you haven’t chosen purely enough?

Could you be playing too small?  Could it be that somewhere, deep within, you really do know what your authentic work is and you know that eventually you will go for it?

I’m a ballsy guy but it took every once of courage I have to go public before working out all the kinks in this link.  But I also know that’s the way I’ll help those of you who want it the most.  I’ll be continuing to put out less polished stuff that you may find helpful.

Of this I am certain. We are all in this together. The link will not connect without the strong unconditional support of those who also believe in the glory of uniqueness.  I welcome all supportive comments and questions for connecting your link.   Let the real games begin now.

Fear Cripples Authenticity

Fear cripples authenticity and once crippled it doesn’t hold enough power to sustain itself.  Our dreams then become like kites without wind. iStock_000007626121XSmall

That’s the problem with compromise. When you settle for less than you know you could have, you poke a little hole in your soul.

We can only take so many hits to our authenticity.  After awhile the only thing that will resurrect it is full bore, courageous, original choices.

My intention in this post is to cause you to pause and see where your compromises are slowly killing you. You have many unknown friends and supporters who await the inspiration of authentic expression that only you can offer.

Yes, we are all unique but there are threads and themes of affinity running through us.  We lift one another by standing tall enough so that others can feel the light from our boldness.

When you stand tall by making an authentic choice, in an area that also inspires me; I stand a little taller too.

We are so close to tipping our world back to authentic harmony.

More and more of us each day are beating the drum of authentic expression.  The biggest obstacle to enjoying such a world is simply the fear of looking like a fool.

But who’s truly the fool?  One who stumbles in sincere authentic expression or one who hides safely behind the insidious mask of trying to fit in?

Because of societal conditioning, the fear of looking like a fool runs like faulty DNA through the fiber of our beings and the only antidote is choosing more authentically, more often.

Pure authenticity is the only thing big enough worth risking the approval of others.  Authenticity requires glorious tribute to individual courage.

When you make the decision to stand tall in your own magnificence you must follow-through and announce it.  Authenticity without expression is a watered down, less powerful force that causes unnecessary internal struggle.

If you’ve been brave but falling short of the mark look and see if you may have been holding back or watering down your expression.

Authenticity is best used in service to transformation.  It’s truly the action of coming back to our most genuine core.  Such genuineness must be seized and asserted with the glory it deserves.

Fear not.  You have what it takes.  Claim the work life you were meant to enjoy and check back here often.  I’ve decided to lead this charge in a much bigger way.

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What’s Your Main Thing?

Your main thing both grounds you and inspires you. istock_000005339131xsmall

Your main thing presents an opportunity for self-honor and personal integrity.

Your main thing must be something that you’d always defend when backed against the wall.

Your main thing emboldens you organically with natural confidence.

Your main thing is the core backbone of your business niche.

If you aren’t sure about your main thing then you may struggle in business.

Do not confuse the business function built around your main thing as your main thing.

My core business function, as a start up coach, is to guide clients through the process of discovering, validating and expressing their main thing in the form of a prosperous business.

But that’s not my main thing.

My main thing is championing uniqueness.  My main thing is encouraging you to express your authentic singularity.

The world needs you to express your magnificent unlikeness.

The independent nature of your makeup is the key to finding and profiting from your authentic sweet spot.

We want to know what makes you different.

We’ll pay you well for your distinctiveness.

What’s your main thing? If you know it will you honor us by sharing it here?

Have an idea for a business and your not sure if it will fly? Then join us for this free phone class, on July 15, to run your idea through the gauntlet.