I’m going to go against the grain here and take a stand for inspiration. Especially since Seth Godin came out with his excellent book, Linchpin, I’ve seen an awful lot written about battling resistance. His marketing advice is topnotch and it always stretches my noodle. But I think he’s missed the mark on resistance.
But Seth isn’t the only one. Many authors and self-help gurus recommend taking a stand against resistance. They say that you don’t have to feel good in order to create, follow-through and complete. Seth goes so far as to recommend ignoring your feelings.
You’re familiar with this Nike-like philosophy of just sucking it up and doing it. Use willpower and discipline they say. Face the fear and do it anyway. I used to spout this same rubbish until I stumbled on a better way.
More on that soon but first a confession; I’m a big tough guy and a talented, experienced coach but I’ve lost more battles with resistance than I’ve won.
Resistance is by definition self-sabotage. Procrastination is the most common manifestation of Resistance because it’s the easiest to rationalize. Steven Pressfield
Resistance can also show up as distraction, obsession and avoidance. Really any made up excuse or rationalization that keeps you from doing what you want to do, is resistance.
“Just Do It!” makes sense but why is it so damn hard to just do it? I understood that I get more done by diving right in but I more often run than dive. Resistance is a sneaky bastard. Sometimes you can trick it and sometimes not.
Sometimes accountability works and sometimes not. Sometimes a sacred and honorable pledge will work and sometimes not. Sometimes looking at your deepest motivation (why) for creating what you’re creating will work and sometimes not.
Have you had similar struggles with Resistance? Have you tried but found the “just do it” advice lacking?
I think that Seth and the boys assume that since willpower works for them it will work for everyone just as well. Apparently not.
Self-control is an exhaustible resource. Chip & Dan Heath from their book, Switch: How To Change When Change Is Hard.
Self-control is willpower, discipline, sucking it up and just doing it. And we can run out of self-control. I think traditional productivity experts have forgotten all about this oldie but goodie.
What we resist persists. Perhaps resistance is so powerful because we keep fighting it. Ignoring feelings is resistance. Sucking it up is resistance. Standing up to resistance is resistance.
How about we try something that we can’t run out of?
Inspiration is inexhaustible as long as it’s authentic.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to work around resistance. You don’t have to stand up to resistance. You don’t have to suck it up and just do it.
Instead how about tapping into your naturally occurring flow of authentic aliveness?
How about working on something that naturally inspires you to feel really good?
I wonder what that might be? Here’s a hint.
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. Howard Thurman
So my friend, what brings you alive with natural enthusiasm? What brings joy to your heart and puts a spring in your step? What work calls you?
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One of my biggest personal challenges used to be completing what I started.
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Life doesn’t have to be one big struggle after another. We were first built for joy.
I’ll close with a powerful video where Pamela Bruner takes us through a delightful EFT tapping session that uses fun instead of willpower to make challenging tasks easier. This video is wonderful for creating a state of inspiration.
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