Overcoming Fear

overcoming fearsOvercoming fear, so you can do what you really want to do, is much easier once you sort out the fears that aren’t even yours.

Take these three steps.

  1. Think about something that you’ve wanted to do for many years but just haven’t done it. On a sheet of paper write the completion to this sentence.   For years I’ve wanted to ……
  2. Now write this question. What are all the reasons I haven’t done that yet?
  3. Look at the reasons. How many of those excuses, justifications and rationalizations aren’t even your own? Highlight all of those that may not even be your own and see how few remain.

What if you knew for certain that most of your fears aren’t really your own?  Since they are false fears they won’t even come into play. If that were so would you make your move then?

When you put a higher value on what others may think of your actions than your own inner guidance you are doomed to failure. Even worse, you’re doomed to live a dull, waiting life that never becomes what it might have been.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. Teddy Roosevelt

Teddy Roosevelt was resolutely himself, consistently and without apology.

What does that look like for you?

You were created with a special flare and style and when your special light shines its brilliance that brilliance is like no other. It’s your gift. You possess the potency and capacity to change the world simply by being you.

The best way to stand in a space of overcoming fear is to first let go off all the fears that really aren’t yours.

Do you have an original idea but delay starting because you fear failing?

If so, there is a very good chance that what you fear isn’t originally your thought.

Quit living your life running from someone else’s fear.

Your original idea is yours – your fears are others. Fearless living can be yours.

Answer the questions I gave you at the beginning of this post and you’ll begin to feel lighter and even fearless.

Fear of looking like a fool keeps you from getting what you want. Egbert Sukop

Let go of what others may think and say by following your own inner guidance.

Answer these questions and follow-through.

  1. What small action could I take today knowing that false fears won’t stop me?
  2. What is it (about my idea) that matters most to me that is also most valuable to others?
  3. What might be possible if I only chose me all of the time?

Overcoming fear that’s not originally your own will allow your special light to shine so you can come into your own. That’s all you need to end delay so you can do what you came here to do.

Schedule your complimentary strategy session today and together we’ll sort out the fears that really aren’t yours.

The Prize Is the Pursuit

Many who claim that they want the freedom, fulfillment and prosperity of being their own boss, actually don’t believe that it’s possible for them. If they did they’d at least be in pursuit of self-employment happiness. Our United States forefathers, in our Declaration of Independence wrote, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

They understood that happiness is something to be pursued. The truly valuable prize is found in the decision to pursue and is the pursuit itself. Many feel that the greater value and joy is the pursuit, is the journey, than the destination.

Why is the prize the pursuit?

1). When in pursuit of something you have already made the decision to go for it and thus you believe that it’s possible for you.

2). While focused in the pursuit you are fully in the present moment, which is your only point of creative power.

Waiting is a state of mind. Basically it means that you want the future; you don’t want the present. —- Eckhart Tolle

3). In the movement of pursuit our perspective changes and we can see opportunities that we were previously blind to. It’s called the corridor theory. In 1998 I was speaking at the downtown Pittsburgh Business Library. After the talk, a guy came out of the audience and asked me if I’d ever done any coaching. At that time I hadn’t, yet if I had not walked down the corridor of professional speaking, the door to greater delightful work would not have opened.

4). In pursuit we often stumble, but our mistakes hold rich meaning because we now have an understanding from which we can adjust. Before pursuit, at best, our effort is a mind game of untested theories and assumptions.

In this post I discussed how to get beyond the excuses that stop us from pursuing the liberty of self-employment.

Of course we can apply this wisdom to more than declaring our freedom from the tyranny of employment.

It can be applied to anything we say we want that we are not yet actively pursuing.

I believe that Teddy Roosevelt said it best.

It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat. Teddy Roosevelt

Are you in the arena or still watching from the sidelines?

Have you experienced the value of being in pursuit of your happiness?