I’m a 270-pound, 59 year old, with two ankle fusions, who is in training to play one more game of rugby. Often they ask, why subject yourself to the very thing that destroyed all the cartilage in your ankles?
What they may never understand is that while playing rugby I feel most like myself. Most of my deeply fulfilling flow experiences have come on the rugby pitch.
I wonder, what’s your one more rugby game?
There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls.
There is great value in doing something organic to who you are. There is great honor in deciding – screw them. Be. Stand tall in your own skin.
A life of engaged authenticity carries great benefits and rewards. Somehow this choice of authentic bliss extends to other areas of our lives.
The demonstration of unique self-honor creates an attractive self-confidence that cannot be created in less genuine ways. It’s that bona fide self-confidence that makes us feel competent to life, as though we really fit the game of life.
Somewhere in your life right now is a dream, a passion, a quest or simply an enjoyable pastime that you may have set aside because “they” said that you should. To hell with them! Be your own bad ass self and dust off your true desires.
True callings need no further explanation. They don’t need to make sense to anyone.
Can you imagine how beautifully different our world would be if everybody said? “To hell with them, I’m going for it! ”
I talked to a right livelihood client this morning that is terrified of discovering a vocation that would require further schooling. In my post Screw Going Back to School I talked about this myth that someone else knows better than you do, what’s really good for you.
Ideal careers and businesses are more often created than found. Creators don’t need further education because creators credential and qualify themselves.
Sure, really going for it is scary as hell but there is a version of you deep within who does not want to settle in any aspect of your life. That bold being wants to experience all the necessary bumps, disappointments and scrapes on the way to really living.
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ‘WOW-What a Ride!’”
There may be a time for caution but from what I’ve seen, caution is only a self-constructed cage that delays courage and holds back the real freedom of living.
What is your one more rugby game? Will you commit to playing it?