Is it inauthentic to do the things that you don’t like to do? Just because a career choice is challenging does that automatically mean you’ve chosen the wrong career?
This myth of ease has caused more harm than good because it causes many to question themselves. This self-doubt makes them stop before they can seize their best career.
Some believe that when we have chosen the right career, (when we are living our purpose) doors easily open and everything falls into place. I know a few who have enjoyed that level of validation.
But what about those who don’t? Does that automatically mean that they haven’t chosen their best career?
Not necessarily. Things don’t necessarily fall into place for us just because we’ve chosen well. An essential part of choosing well is recognizing the opportunity when we miss the mark and adjusting our aim accordingly.
Until we walk down the hallway of action we can’t see which doors will open. In 1998 I thought I’d found my best career as an inspirational speaker. But until an audience member asked about coaching, I was blind to the very opportunity that was my best career fit.
Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict. William Ellery Channing
We can be completely in our element and still be challenged.
Challenge and authenticity do not exclude one another.
What if things never fell in place for you? Would you quit life? Would you give up entirely?
Consider for a moment, what makes the comfort zone comfortable? Please just pause and answer this question before reading on.
What make activities fall into a zone of comfort? I think it’s because we’ve already experienced them before. They are familiar to us. In other words when we are in our comfort zone we are experiencing another version of the same past that we’ve already experienced.
In bullfighting there is a term called querencia. The querencia is the spot in the ring to which the bull returns. Each bull has a different querencia, but as the bullfight continues, and the animal becomes more threatened, it returns more and more often to his spot.
As he returns to his querencia, he becomes more predictable. And so, in the end, the matador is able to kill the bull because instead of trying something new, the bull returns to what is familiar. His comfort zone. Carly Fiorina
Test this theory. Go ahead I dare you. Think about a time when you felt totally alive. Recall a time when you felt a vibrant pulsing in your body and a real sense of adventure. Were you challenged or were you comfortable?
Were you taking part in a new activity or repeating something you’d already done?
I thought so. So tell me please, what’s so damned good about comfort? Comfortable isn’t even that much fun.
The couch beckons all of us when we need relief or rest. Yet comfort is not what makes life interesting.
Life is to be lived flat out in circumstances that arouse.
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Emerson
Perhaps you already have found your best career. Perhaps everything you’ve ever wanted is just on the other side of your current challenge. Dare you persist and see?